Sometimes one of the hardest things to accept is that one person’s feelings may have probably died at some point already, and you might have been the only one who’s been holding it together. Most likely you’ll still feel sad sometimes if you ever look back every now and then. You may want to face the fact that the person’s part in your life story is over.
This is one of the drawbacks from falling in love, from being in a long-term relationship with someone whom you’ve once believed to be “the one.” We can’t choose who to fall for and control our feelings. That’s the strange thing about it. We can only choose on whether to have a relationship with that person or not develop one at all.
If you’ve just found out that your long-term boyfriend or girlfriend (or even spouse) has cheated on you, right now you should really ask yourself what you truly want. This is something that only you know. Were the good times worth it? And can you trust that this sort of thing won’t happen again? Are you willing to risk it all over again? What kind of relationship do you think you deserve, at least? What can and can’t you tolerate? A person who still truly loves you will consider your feelings, too. Maybe you need to settle this out for good and hear what the other has to say. But keep in mind of what you want as well. You’re basically the judge in this situation. After all, you can learn to forgive, but some things may be really hard to forget. Will you really feel happy and secured again after you go back? It was/is your relationship, and you should know the person well enough. The decision is yours.
Love yourself enough to do what’s best for you, even if you may have other priorities.
Ms. Introvert 